I was bewildered as to how I got here. I’ve made my values of fairness and equity clear to my partner. I’m a feminist, my partner is a feminist, and we had been trying to develop a somewhat fair household chores system since we started cohabitating. So why did I feel like I would one day soon wake up with a doting homemaker apron on with the sudden urge to have a cocktail ready for when my breadwinner husband gets home? Claustrophobic, I was tearing at this role from the inside out.